My name is Nikki and I am the ‘She’ that Graeme mentions in his blogs. Graeme has a way with words while I am just good at talking, so this blogging is new to me. After Graeme got through his operation I always felt that we had been given a second chance and that we both needed to do something special with our lives. I now work for The Royal British Legion and everyday meet wonderful and brave people.
Graeme and I have often talked about sharing our experiences with others, but I found it difficult to say more than the basics as I took myself back to the most frightening time in life when I nearly lost my love, my best friend and the other half of my being. Growing up there had been much sadness in my family but until 22nd April 2003 I had no idea how much Graeme meant to me. We talked about ‘He’ (Graeme) sharing his experiences with others as there was no help group – then on 11th August 2009 he sat down at the computer and started this website. From that moment he finally started to open up and realize just how big a deal it had all been – he also realized just how much he could contribute to others who had gone through similar experiences – I am so very proud of him.
‘He’ had been asking me to read the blogs but I was frightened that the emotions would come flooding back. Yesterday I returned from a business trip, a Remembrance Tour to NE India with the most amazing group of people each on their own journeys to visit friends, husbands and family lost in Kohima and Imphal, in far northeast India, (site of terrible battles in World War 2). I consider them all friends now, I learnt so much from each of them and we all had an amazing time together. I asked how the Aortic dissection blog was going and he told me all about the wonderful people who had joined while I had been away. SO, today I sat down for the first time and read every word…. Tears are in my eyes as I remember, (although the memories are always with me I put them in a box so I can get on with life and not dwell) – I am so very proud of my husband and what he is doing and so very pleased to see more and more people joining.
Each of you are all very special and I do believe that we can all help each other. People and especially friends and family are loving and very kind but these experiences are something that only those who have gone through it can really understand. Thank you all for sharing your stories.
I have started this blog so that the partners and families can share thoughts on our amazing loved ones and exchange ideas.