Aortic dissection, aortic aneurysm - The aorta - Life after an aortic dissection
Hi Judy, one problem my husband did not have is wanting to eat (although when he finally could, he wasn't too pleased with what what was offered). I wonder if the loss of appetite is due in part to depression? This ties into earlier posts about counseling for both you and your husband. Also, having someone watch you 24 hrs a day must be unnerving - and depressing, it might lead you to think you're ready to go at any moment. Thinking about my husband's last days in the hospital, the motivation to leave may be the bait your husband needs - if he eats, gets stronger, etc. the sooner he will be able to leave.
It may be worth getting him to consider some form of counselling when he is out of hospital. I went through so many mood swings from being very cool about the whole thing to anger; my mind was generally all over the place.
Lucky for me I had access to this service through work & the counsellor helped me gather my thoughts & focus on what was needed & the challenges ahead.
Give him time initially & then maybe suggest it if he is still the same, you can probably get referred through your GP.
Hang it there, things will get better. One of the things I learned about me and most survivors is that we go through a period of traumatic stress disorder. Continue to ask questions here, ask his cardiologist questions(no question is stupid or unimportant) also I would advise some sort of counseling for him and maybe for you too..it's hard on the ones we love.
Adding to Kimbelees's wisdom i agree at some time seek counselling yourself. My wife had to go through so many changes with me, our (HER) whole life was effected. As a survivor i didn't really see it, being wrapped up in my own world.
Talking on this forum is great, but not a substitute to someone who can be a sounding board & a sympathetic listner. Most of the answers are there & you will find them as time goes by.
I read you mail with sadness, I hear what you are saying, it’s a pity he can’t see it & the pain you’re going through.
Its very early days for you both, but if its getting you down, maybe a frank conversation will jolt him out of his revere. Your right he needs to see how things are & get motivated.
I would have a frank & honest conversation with him & explain some home truths. He needs to start to focus on the challenges ahead and remember he is part of a larger family.
From experience I know it’s to easy to wallow in self pity, but my wife hasn’t let me. She has pushed & cajoled me back into a near normal life & I would take a leaf out of her book.
Maybe when he is ready introduce him to this web site soon. If he is looking for support, empathy or whatever we can at least, as fellow AD sufferers, help him back on his feet.
Wishing you both well